What to Tell Your Kids about Your Upcoming Unassisted Birth

Children are inherently curious. The younger they are, the less likely they are to notice what’s going on. A one-year old may not even really be aware of the fact that your lap is shrinking during pregnancy. And while you can certainly tell him about the baby in your belly, he won’t ask you questions about the upcoming birth. As your children get older, questions about pregnancy and childbirth are going to come up, whether you want that to happen or not.

Will They Be Present?

How much your kids need to know depends partially on whether they’re going to be present for your birth or not. If you plan on asking a sitter to take them, then you could decide to stick to the basics. However, there’s nothing wrong with telling your children how babies are born. Personally, I don’t like telling kids stories of Santa Claus, either. Therefore, I would never dream to let them believe that the stork brings the babies.

By the way, it’s always possible that your birth progresses too quickly to send your kids away, especially if you give birth at night. It’s also possible that your babysitter is unavailable that day. Therefore, you should have a backup plan in place. If your kids are old enough to entertain themselves, you don’t have to worry. Otherwise, a movie might be helpful.

Don’t Scare Them

There is no need to scare your children unnecessarily. However, you still need to be realistic. After all, you will be too preoccupied to explain the process during labor. If they know ahead of time what to expect, then they’re less likely to worry about you. Generally, you may want to tell them that labor and childbirth takes some time, because your body has to get ready to let the baby out. Additionally, it’s quite likely that you’ll be in pain. Nevertheless, you will be fine, but you should make sure your kids know that.

If your kids are going to watch, you should also let them know that there will be blood, poop, and pee. However, none of that is a problem; it’s just part of the natural process. Depending on their age, you can explain to them when what happens, or you can just talk of the birth in general. Young children won’t likely to be frightened with what they see unless you are. But no matter what age your kids are, you should let them decide whether they want to watch or not. They should be able to leave the room at any time, but if they’re little someone needs to make sure they stay safe.